Today was the day. My baby boy moved another notch up the 'Growing Up' ladder. Master L started basketball training today! This is my boy's first time doing a sport of any kind, so today was a big day for him.
When we arrived, he was given his ball, which is slightly smaller than a normal basket ball (this training is designed for 4-8yr olds, so smaller balls and hoops are lower) and he was so excited! We got up to the courts and they had them split up into 4 different teams to go into 4 different areas. Shooting hoops, foot skills, learning about the court area and dribbling/passing skills. They do each section for 15mins at a time.
He was very shy to start with, and I had to stand with him as he was practising shooting hoops, but when he moved onto the next section he let me go sit down with Daddy and did so well with his foot skills.
When he got to the foot skill section, he had to put his ball down with everyone else's. No worries, but when it came time to change areas he went to get his ball and someone had picked his up by mistake. Oh dear, my poor little guy was devastated!! He started crying so over I went to tell him it was ok, we would find it, but he was too upset. He tried hard to pull it together but he didn't cope very well, so Daddy went with him on the court to try and get him into it again. They stayed out for a bit longer but came and sat down for the last few minutes.
The good news is, after they finish, they get a Chupa Chup lolly pop, so that soothed him LOL and we found the ball!! So he had a bit of a play with Daddy before we left and was much happier.
He is now looking forward to next week, and knows that if his ball goes AWOL again, its quite ok cause he will get it back at the end :)
My baby isn't a baby anymore!!
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
Friday, February 06, 2009
What a Week!!
Phew! Thank goodness it's Friday is all I will say!
It has been one of those weeks, that whilst it was GREAT it was also crazy at the same time.
Monday - boys were at kindy. Finally they are starting to enjoy it again. With all the older kids heading off to prep, there was a bit of a shift around with rooms etc. So the boys were feeling it a bit. All is great now, and Master L is doing so much better! Master H has always loved it, never had a problem with him going but when his brother is having issues, he goes out in sympathy. But, having said that, I do not regret the boys going to Kindy. With the needs of our family, and the issues that Mr B has, we are doing everything we can to hopefully stop what he has gone through, happening to our children.
Tuesday - at home day today which was made brighter by a visit from a friend 'T' and her little guy, 'O'. I watched 'O' while 'T' went and had an x-ray, and the boys had so much fun together. I'm heading out with 'T' on Monday which I am looking forward to!
Wednesday - Kindy day again, and the boys were even more excited to be going. They are learning about dinosaurs at the moment, which is great because they both love dinosaurs! Today I also made the VERY important decision that I am signing up as a Creative Memories Consultant!! I am VERY excited about this, and have so much going through my head with ideas/thoughts etc it's hard to know where to start LOL
Unfortunately though, the wonderful morning I was having was short lived. We received a phone call from someone that completely came out of the blue. This person ripped the daylights out of me and to say I was shocked is a massive understatement! Not only was I insulted, but my family and our extended family were also ridiculed and called names that neither Mr B or myself deserved or expected from this person. I was barely given a chance to respond to any of the accusations at all before I was threatened with a harrassment order (pity I wasn't the one harrassing, and never have we harrassed at ANY time!) and then he hung up on me.
I'll give you a hot tip. If you ever want to piss me off, just hang up on me. LOL It's like waving the red flag at the bull!
Luckily Mr B was at home when this happened (he had arrived home from work not long before) and I was telling him what had just happened when the phone rang again. And yes, again it was this guy ringing and abusing me again. OMG seriously, it was CRAZY! Going on and on about complete crap. But then he made the mistake of calling my husband a pussy. He called him a pussy for not coming to the phone (he never asked to speak to him, was too busy yelling at me!) and also a pussy for not talking much the last time we got together. Well that was it, I lost the plot. This person knows that Mr B has issues with social anxiety, and I was disgusted that he made a comment like that, knowing all of this. Uggghh!! Mr B got on the phone then and was so good! I am VERY proud of the way he handled the phone call.
Anyway, the rest of the day was pretty crappy. I was a big bundle of nerves after being yelled at (or should I say screamed at!) twice, so the day was just not the best.
Thursday - woke up great and looking forward to today. Was catching up with another friend 'M' and her 2 boys, that we haven't seen for ages. The kids all got along really well which was great, and all was going well until the damn phone rang again. Uggghh yes, it was 'him' ringing back again. This time under the guise of an apology. Too bloody right you should mate. But once again, the phone call went on and on, and our family were being blamed for things that we shouldn't be. All because of insecurities. Oh dear, I know how much being insecure can taint your life, but this was beyond anything that I think i've ever felt before (and I thought I was bad!). Anyway, more threats were made, to which this time I laughed at but then he started on another track. He was saying stuff about us that he shouldn't know. How he knows this we have NO idea, but yes it put the wind up us both.
I'll make this clear, neither Mr B, nor myself have anything to hide. BUT, when someone starts saying things about how much they know about you its a bit freaky!!
Anyway, back on track. The rest of the day was great. Why? Because I got to have my say on the whole situation to this person, and whilst he hung up on me again (yep, pissed me off again LOL) it ended with me feeling better this time. Not sure what they were hoping to achieve with these threats and phone calls, but you know what it's done. It's bought Mr B and I closer once again! So maybe I should be thankful for that?? LOL
Friday - I went to an Asperger's Support Group meeting today and oh it was GREAT! It is so nice to talk to other people who understand my man. Who know that even though he has his issues, he does have a heart in there. I learnt a bit today that I didn't know before and oh dear, my heart goes out to everyone who has a child on the Spectrum. The paper trail that they go through is incredible and ridiculous all at the same time! They were such lovely people at the meeting, and very welcoming even though none of the boys have been diagnosed with anything, only Mr B. Will definitely be going back to next month's meeting!
So, a crazy week, yeah? LOL Bring on next week! I'm looking forward to it!!
It has been one of those weeks, that whilst it was GREAT it was also crazy at the same time.
Monday - boys were at kindy. Finally they are starting to enjoy it again. With all the older kids heading off to prep, there was a bit of a shift around with rooms etc. So the boys were feeling it a bit. All is great now, and Master L is doing so much better! Master H has always loved it, never had a problem with him going but when his brother is having issues, he goes out in sympathy. But, having said that, I do not regret the boys going to Kindy. With the needs of our family, and the issues that Mr B has, we are doing everything we can to hopefully stop what he has gone through, happening to our children.
Tuesday - at home day today which was made brighter by a visit from a friend 'T' and her little guy, 'O'. I watched 'O' while 'T' went and had an x-ray, and the boys had so much fun together. I'm heading out with 'T' on Monday which I am looking forward to!
Wednesday - Kindy day again, and the boys were even more excited to be going. They are learning about dinosaurs at the moment, which is great because they both love dinosaurs! Today I also made the VERY important decision that I am signing up as a Creative Memories Consultant!! I am VERY excited about this, and have so much going through my head with ideas/thoughts etc it's hard to know where to start LOL
Unfortunately though, the wonderful morning I was having was short lived. We received a phone call from someone that completely came out of the blue. This person ripped the daylights out of me and to say I was shocked is a massive understatement! Not only was I insulted, but my family and our extended family were also ridiculed and called names that neither Mr B or myself deserved or expected from this person. I was barely given a chance to respond to any of the accusations at all before I was threatened with a harrassment order (pity I wasn't the one harrassing, and never have we harrassed at ANY time!) and then he hung up on me.
I'll give you a hot tip. If you ever want to piss me off, just hang up on me. LOL It's like waving the red flag at the bull!
Luckily Mr B was at home when this happened (he had arrived home from work not long before) and I was telling him what had just happened when the phone rang again. And yes, again it was this guy ringing and abusing me again. OMG seriously, it was CRAZY! Going on and on about complete crap. But then he made the mistake of calling my husband a pussy. He called him a pussy for not coming to the phone (he never asked to speak to him, was too busy yelling at me!) and also a pussy for not talking much the last time we got together. Well that was it, I lost the plot. This person knows that Mr B has issues with social anxiety, and I was disgusted that he made a comment like that, knowing all of this. Uggghh!! Mr B got on the phone then and was so good! I am VERY proud of the way he handled the phone call.
Anyway, the rest of the day was pretty crappy. I was a big bundle of nerves after being yelled at (or should I say screamed at!) twice, so the day was just not the best.
Thursday - woke up great and looking forward to today. Was catching up with another friend 'M' and her 2 boys, that we haven't seen for ages. The kids all got along really well which was great, and all was going well until the damn phone rang again. Uggghh yes, it was 'him' ringing back again. This time under the guise of an apology. Too bloody right you should mate. But once again, the phone call went on and on, and our family were being blamed for things that we shouldn't be. All because of insecurities. Oh dear, I know how much being insecure can taint your life, but this was beyond anything that I think i've ever felt before (and I thought I was bad!). Anyway, more threats were made, to which this time I laughed at but then he started on another track. He was saying stuff about us that he shouldn't know. How he knows this we have NO idea, but yes it put the wind up us both.
I'll make this clear, neither Mr B, nor myself have anything to hide. BUT, when someone starts saying things about how much they know about you its a bit freaky!!
Anyway, back on track. The rest of the day was great. Why? Because I got to have my say on the whole situation to this person, and whilst he hung up on me again (yep, pissed me off again LOL) it ended with me feeling better this time. Not sure what they were hoping to achieve with these threats and phone calls, but you know what it's done. It's bought Mr B and I closer once again! So maybe I should be thankful for that?? LOL
Friday - I went to an Asperger's Support Group meeting today and oh it was GREAT! It is so nice to talk to other people who understand my man. Who know that even though he has his issues, he does have a heart in there. I learnt a bit today that I didn't know before and oh dear, my heart goes out to everyone who has a child on the Spectrum. The paper trail that they go through is incredible and ridiculous all at the same time! They were such lovely people at the meeting, and very welcoming even though none of the boys have been diagnosed with anything, only Mr B. Will definitely be going back to next month's meeting!
So, a crazy week, yeah? LOL Bring on next week! I'm looking forward to it!!
Sunday, February 01, 2009
No, I'm NOT going crazy!
Well tonight, Mr B and I went out for dinner while my parents looked after the boys. We left just before 6pm, didn't really enjoy dinner as it wasn't cooked the best (which is sad cause we used to LOVE going to Lonestar, we won't be going back again) but did enjoy the time out from the house together.
While we were at dinner, apparently all hell broke loose here at home. Master L lost the plot for my folks, and for the first time my Mum actually saw what i've been dealing with for the past week. It all started just as we were putting the roller door down and driving out, Master L wanted an icecream (remember I said it was just before 6pm when we left!). Mum said to him that he could have one after he had his dinner. Well nope, he snuck in, got one and ran out the back which is where he was found after he had opened it and started eating.
Now me being the Meany Mummy that I am, I would have taken it off him but Nan took a different approach and let him eat it. When Master L came inside to then have dinner she said to him 'no, no dinner because you had the ice cream. You could have had both if you had of had your dinner first, but you chose not too'. And that is when the screaming started.
It went on and on, Master L bashed Master P (14mths old!) with a car and Nan lost the plot then. She took him down to time out, didn't work he nearly bashed a hole in the door. So she took him out, plonked him in the shower and turned the cold water on (its a warm day here today, so no need to worry that he was going to freeze or anything!!). This FINALLY got him out of his 'zone' and shocked him out of it. A minute later he was fine. Mum said to me after she had told me all that had gone on, 'No wonder you have been like you are this week. I just thought it was you having a bad week, but this is unreal! I have NEVER seen him like this before'. To which I said 'yes, now you believe me hey. I'm not going crazy, it's not just me he does this for now'.
Now tell me, is that normal behaviour for a 4yr old? It's the stuff like this that is scaring the absolute crap out of me right now because I do not know how to deal with it. Is it 4yr old stuff, or is it a sign of Asperger's rearing its head?
Before my parents even arrived here this afternoon, we had had a good afternoon until Master H woke up. That is when Master L went back to his crappy behaviour which resulted in him being put into time out, nearly bashing down the door, bashing and screaming at me and then him running into his room. No worries, he got up on his bed and I told him that he was to chill out and think about his behaviour and closed the door. He didn't like that so he screamed again (I ignored it) and then went quiet. I could hear him singing to himself so I knew that he was calming down.
Anyway, he finally made his way out, ran into my room (I was hiding in my room, how pathetic is that? I just had to have my own time out for a few minutes) and came and apologised to me. He really meant it, and also said that he 'drew me a picture because I love you Mummy and it's Mother's Day' (not sure why he thought it was that, but hey I thought it was sweet at the time). Aww you drew me a picture, me inocently thinking it was in his scrapbooking. 'Yes Mummy, I drew it on my wall'
OMFG
So I 'calmly' walked down to the room and this is what I was greeted with....
Seriously, is it bad that I was actually really proud of his drawing? Look at my smiley face, spikey hair. Heck he even did both legs this time! His people drawing is really starting to come on now and I was proud. So how can you be proud and yet cranky at the fact that he DREW ON THE WALL?!? I called Mr B into see it, and he too was proud and told Master L what a great job he did, pity it wasn't on paper so we could laminate it and keep it and to please not draw on the wall again. All while Mr B and I are trying not to laugh (hey, we don't want our Mini Picasso thinking its ok to draw on the walls!!).
Thank goodness for those Chux Erasers!!!
Boys huh?!? Definitely think I need to read that book Bec! I need ALL the help I can get. Roll on Friday too when I head to the Asperger's Support Group meeting for the first time. Hopefully I will learn ways to cope with Mr B, which in turn will help with the kids.
While we were at dinner, apparently all hell broke loose here at home. Master L lost the plot for my folks, and for the first time my Mum actually saw what i've been dealing with for the past week. It all started just as we were putting the roller door down and driving out, Master L wanted an icecream (remember I said it was just before 6pm when we left!). Mum said to him that he could have one after he had his dinner. Well nope, he snuck in, got one and ran out the back which is where he was found after he had opened it and started eating.
Now me being the Meany Mummy that I am, I would have taken it off him but Nan took a different approach and let him eat it. When Master L came inside to then have dinner she said to him 'no, no dinner because you had the ice cream. You could have had both if you had of had your dinner first, but you chose not too'. And that is when the screaming started.
It went on and on, Master L bashed Master P (14mths old!) with a car and Nan lost the plot then. She took him down to time out, didn't work he nearly bashed a hole in the door. So she took him out, plonked him in the shower and turned the cold water on (its a warm day here today, so no need to worry that he was going to freeze or anything!!). This FINALLY got him out of his 'zone' and shocked him out of it. A minute later he was fine. Mum said to me after she had told me all that had gone on, 'No wonder you have been like you are this week. I just thought it was you having a bad week, but this is unreal! I have NEVER seen him like this before'. To which I said 'yes, now you believe me hey. I'm not going crazy, it's not just me he does this for now'.
Now tell me, is that normal behaviour for a 4yr old? It's the stuff like this that is scaring the absolute crap out of me right now because I do not know how to deal with it. Is it 4yr old stuff, or is it a sign of Asperger's rearing its head?
Before my parents even arrived here this afternoon, we had had a good afternoon until Master H woke up. That is when Master L went back to his crappy behaviour which resulted in him being put into time out, nearly bashing down the door, bashing and screaming at me and then him running into his room. No worries, he got up on his bed and I told him that he was to chill out and think about his behaviour and closed the door. He didn't like that so he screamed again (I ignored it) and then went quiet. I could hear him singing to himself so I knew that he was calming down.
Anyway, he finally made his way out, ran into my room (I was hiding in my room, how pathetic is that? I just had to have my own time out for a few minutes) and came and apologised to me. He really meant it, and also said that he 'drew me a picture because I love you Mummy and it's Mother's Day' (not sure why he thought it was that, but hey I thought it was sweet at the time). Aww you drew me a picture, me inocently thinking it was in his scrapbooking. 'Yes Mummy, I drew it on my wall'
OMFG
So I 'calmly' walked down to the room and this is what I was greeted with....
Seriously, is it bad that I was actually really proud of his drawing? Look at my smiley face, spikey hair. Heck he even did both legs this time! His people drawing is really starting to come on now and I was proud. So how can you be proud and yet cranky at the fact that he DREW ON THE WALL?!? I called Mr B into see it, and he too was proud and told Master L what a great job he did, pity it wasn't on paper so we could laminate it and keep it and to please not draw on the wall again. All while Mr B and I are trying not to laugh (hey, we don't want our Mini Picasso thinking its ok to draw on the walls!!).
Thank goodness for those Chux Erasers!!!
Boys huh?!? Definitely think I need to read that book Bec! I need ALL the help I can get. Roll on Friday too when I head to the Asperger's Support Group meeting for the first time. Hopefully I will learn ways to cope with Mr B, which in turn will help with the kids.
I'm Excited!
In a little over an hour, my folks will be here to look after the 3 'cherubs' so that Mr B and I can head out for some adult time together. I am so looking forward to it.
Don't get me wrong I love my boys like nothing else, but at the moment I am in desperate need of a Mummy Break. There hasn't been a day in while when I haven't had at least one of them with me, and unfortunately I am one of those people who struggles if I don't get some alone time. Right now, i'm struggling, but in saying that i'm working on it.
The boys are slightly crazy at the moment, and Master L is going through a wonderful 4yr old male testosterone phase and ohh the aggression and fighting that is coming out of him is crazy! Not dealing with that particularly well, mainly because I'm not sure just how to handle it. Lots of counting to 3 lately LOL He is great really, I think he also craves that alone time too (which he got this afternoon when the other 2 had a nap at the same time) and had a great time playing by himself, doing what HE wanted to do.
I bought some pouches for the laminator today, which means actions stations on the new rewards/behaviour chart. Not exactly sure how i'm going to do it yet, but I will work something out. I think it's time we had one again here.
Some days I really struggle being a Mummy, even though I LOVE it and wouldn't change being a Mum for the world. I also really wonder just how to be a Mummy, especially when what I do doesn't seem to work. This last week it would seem that I definitely win the award for the World's Crankiest Mummy, not something i'm proud about at all, but I am able to admit it when i'm in the wrong. Now I just have to really work hard at having some fun rather than being a crank all the time.
Don't get me wrong I love my boys like nothing else, but at the moment I am in desperate need of a Mummy Break. There hasn't been a day in while when I haven't had at least one of them with me, and unfortunately I am one of those people who struggles if I don't get some alone time. Right now, i'm struggling, but in saying that i'm working on it.
The boys are slightly crazy at the moment, and Master L is going through a wonderful 4yr old male testosterone phase and ohh the aggression and fighting that is coming out of him is crazy! Not dealing with that particularly well, mainly because I'm not sure just how to handle it. Lots of counting to 3 lately LOL He is great really, I think he also craves that alone time too (which he got this afternoon when the other 2 had a nap at the same time) and had a great time playing by himself, doing what HE wanted to do.
I bought some pouches for the laminator today, which means actions stations on the new rewards/behaviour chart. Not exactly sure how i'm going to do it yet, but I will work something out. I think it's time we had one again here.
Some days I really struggle being a Mummy, even though I LOVE it and wouldn't change being a Mum for the world. I also really wonder just how to be a Mummy, especially when what I do doesn't seem to work. This last week it would seem that I definitely win the award for the World's Crankiest Mummy, not something i'm proud about at all, but I am able to admit it when i'm in the wrong. Now I just have to really work hard at having some fun rather than being a crank all the time.
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